This Tip discusses why there is never just one reality. Monet’s and Renoir’s pictures titled La Grenouillere prove this.
“Sometimes you have to look reality in the eye, and deny it.” Garrison Keillor
We know that there are many obstacles to true understanding when two or more people are trying to communicate with each other. They may have a difficult shared history that colors their perceptions of what the other person is saying. They may:
- be distracted,
- have a different frame of reference,
- get defensive, or
- make assumptions-
to name only a few reasons for a potential bottleneck.
There can bea difference between what a speaker says and what the listener hears,. So there can also be a difference between how two people react to the same fact situation.
My reality may be very different from your reality. This is because we each select the facts that are most meaningful or useful to us.
This has been proven time and time again. Witnesses to the same event recall very different scenarios based on their unique perspectives.
The parable of the blind men and the elephant reinforces the idea that we perceive reality through a unique lens. The blind men described the elephant based on the part of the animal that they touched.
Keep in mind that there are extenuating circumstances. These might explain and excuse the differences in their realities.
They ask the witnesses to remember a scene that may have only been a brief or peripheral part of their day long ago. If they had known at the time that they would be asked to provide details about the scene, they would probably have paid more attention.
If someone told the blind men that there was more to an elephant than their initial conceptions. Then that person encouraged them to walk around the elephant. They would probably have ended up with a somewhat similar reality.
What if there are no extenuating circumstances? What if there are two people, who are at the same place at the same time. And what if they are giving the same amount of concentrated attention to the same scene? Will their realities be different?
Monet and Renoir sat side by side at a boating and bathing resort. They painted the exact same scene. Both paintings are titled La Grenouillere, which was the name of the resort.
However, the paintings are very different. This is because the painters selected the reality that interested them.
Monet focused on the water and the boats:
Renoir was much more interested in the people, so that was his focus:
Both painters selected the reality that appealed to them, which was possibly the only reality they saw. They then interpreted that reality in their own style of painting.
In this, as in many cases, thank goodness there are a variety of realities.
May your learning be sweet.
Deborah
