Tip #665: Five Steps to Transform Anger

On April 11, 2017, Posted by , In communication, By ,,,, , With Comments Off on Tip #665: Five Steps to Transform Anger

“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems –not people; to focus your energies on answers –not excuses.”   William Arthur Ward

If we lose objectivity due to our anger, we lose control of ourselves and the situation. There are five steps we can take to transform our anger into something positive and constructive.

Step #1:    Disengage from the Situation

When we disengage, we focus on the results we want while we cool down.  We can either physically remove ourselves from the situation or take an emotional time out. Disengaging is not the same as withdrawal, which is in effect a power play that involves resisting the other person’s feelings. It is simply a way to keep defensiveness from escalating.… Read the rest

Tip #399: Constructive Ways to Use Your Anger

On November 7, 2011, Posted by , In learning, By , , With Comments Off on Tip #399: Constructive Ways to Use Your Anger

“Anger is meant to be acted on. It is not meant to be acted out. Anger points the direction. We are meant to use anger as fuel to take the actions we need to move where our anger points us. With a little thought, we can usually translate the message that our anger is sending us. “Julia Cameron

When we talk about anger, physical violence is often the first thing that comes to mind. However, anger is simply another emotion, like joy or fear. It does not have to have a physical or a violent component. It can take many different forms. Some of us express our rage with loud and long rants, others let their anger simmer quietly, and … Read the rest